I think I've spent 25 years of my life trying to become something. I wanted to become good at things.
At first I wanted to become good at sports, studies, grades ...Then I wanted friends, social acceptance, fame..Later I wanted wealth, power, beauty...and i viewed everything in that perspective. I felt i'm not OK the way i am. even after getting good at things...
This whole business of who i am, and whether i'm good or bad or achieving or not, all of that was learned along the way. And i realized that i'm playing the wrong game. The Real Game was to find out what i already was.

In our culture we've been trained for individual differences to stand out. So, you look at each person and immediately it is brighter, dumber, older, younger, richer, poorer, fairer, darker..the good, the evil.. the strong, the weak..We make all these DIMENSIONAL distinctions, We put them in categories and treat them that way. And by doing so, we only see others as separate from ourselves in the ways in whi