it doesn't matter

content: Aug 9, 2016 · podcast: Mar 22, 2020

I had a revelation a few minutes ago. It’s long but it was worth it for me to write it down.
Back when I was maybe 19 or 20 and washing dishes in a restaurant, the baker’s appearance had gone downhill. Meaning she quit wearing her hat and apron and never tucked in her shirt. She looked like she absolutely didn’t care, frumping around and all.
One day my boss asked me what was up with her and I’m like, “I dunno but she looks a little slobby.”

He stood there for a few seconds and then went over to her work station. He said something along the lines of, “you really need to wear your full uniform and tuck in your shirt.” And he said it...not like in a jerky voice...but I could hear some emotion in it. It’s never easy to basically tell someone they look like a slob and need to step up their appearance. People take how they look very personal. I know I do.
He also called her