Shame and Guilt
Shame and guilt. The first thing that I learned during my initial session with Robin Woodall was a new perspective on what the difference is between shame and guilt. I learned how I use – or misuse – shame and how useful guilt can be. What do I mean by that? Well with shame there is no recovery. With shame I have done something wrong and I can never recover. I personally have the shame. I am shame. I am bad. I am unworthy. I am just wrong. I am a horrible person. And that last statement is the root of it. With shame I am personally a piece of shit and will always be a piece of shit. That is the belief.
And now guilt. With guilt I can admit a mistake. I can admit that something I have done has had negative repercussions that I may not have foreseen. I can admit that I may have even intentionally hurt someone because I felt out of control. But the difference with guilt is that once responsibility has been taken for whatever the guilt is in reference to, immediately an a