Men are instructed by God to Love their wives. Wives are instructed to respond to their Husbands.
Cherish your wife and understand that she cannot be what she is not. You cannot pick an orange from a Lemon tree.
Romance is important but understand that men and women have different ideas of what romance is. Women want power under control
A soft voice Proverbs 25-15: By long forbearing is a prince spoken in a soft tongue.
A soft touch is important in romance. 1st Peter 3-7
Part of romance is to respond to her softly Proverbs 15-1
The wife should reverence her husband. Husbands need respect more than Love. Ephesians 5-33, Deuteronomy 10-12, 1st Peter 3-6