Couples should be able to trust each other not break each others confidence.
There tends to be two ways hurt is held. 1. Hurt -> Anger -> Resentment -> Bitterness -> Attacking Spouse. 2. Hurt -> Anger -> Self Pity -> Depression -> Attacking Self.
To get rid of hurts; Go and voice the problem. Matt 5:23-24, Mark 11:25-26