One of the most toxic marital myths is that “the two become one, and I’m the one!” All too often we marry and then are surprised to find that marriage is much more about “giving” than “receiving.” Like our bank accounts, it is far more about making deposits than withdrawals. Unfortunately, too many of us have drained the marital account and are drastically overdrawn!
Perhaps the greatest challenge on our wedding day is that two self-absorbed people suddenly merge their lives together, both thinking that their spouse now exists for them. But this was never God’s intention. Marriage is to be a model of His love for us, and this love is demonstrated by a willingness to give and give and give.
This weekend we look at how a Refuge Marriage is built on unselfish giving. As we provide those things our spouse needs, we both strengthen the marriage covenant and satisfy the heart of the one we love. And it is in seeing this satisfaction that we find duty turned to delight.