Do you always feel the need to be in control? Recovering controllers Nicole Unice and Karen Ehman believe that the root of control is fear or pride. We either just "want what we want when we want it" or we are afraid we won't be safe or significant if we don't control the outcome of our circumstances. Women are great multi-taskers, Karen admits, but that ability to take care of many things at once can also leave them frazzled. Husbands can help their wives put life in context and encourage them to be okay with less than perfect.